It Ain’t Weak To Speak

We all know what to do when we are injured, but how many of us know where to go when we are experiencing mental health issues?

While 20% of Autralians are impacted by mental health, it still seems to be a taboo subject in our modern lives. Actor and mental health champion Sam Webb addressed this often painful subject speaking to about 200 students and community members at the Parkes Mental Health Expo on Monday.

Sam started his presentation with two words: I’m fine. “These are two of most dangerous words spoken every day. They were the last two words I heard from my good friend the night before he took his own life in 2013.”

 Sam, who flew in from his home in Los Angeles, co-founded the mental health charity LIVIN after the death of his friend committing to helping people and organisations understand the importance of mental health and making wellness a priority.

Speaking from the heart his presentation focused on simple tools and strategies to live better, make a difference and be of service to other people. 

“Don’t take ‘I’m fine’ for an answer any more. A lot of people use those two words just as a blow off, and what they really want to say is: Help Me!”

Sam said the “cool mantra” It Ain’t Weak To Speak was not just about mental health but could be applied to all aspects of life, like an upcoming exam, or relationship problems. He gave the audience some tips about talking to someone who is struggling. “Be honest, and don’t be afraid to have a hard conversation. It is about listening, and not trying to fix anything or solving problems.”

Another strategy Sam focused on was being adaptable in life. “It is not cool to hide your pain, and it does not get you anywhere. Find your north star – identify what you’re good at and value yourself and your worth. You have the power to make a difference in your life. It is OK not to be all right.”

For Sam self-care is vital. “We cannot help anyone properly if we do not look after ourselves first.” He said running was his best self-care option, while some answers from the audience included drawing, and talking to a friend.

Sam ended his presentation with a story about a fellow presenter who had survived a suicide attempt. He said the most important message from the survivor was that he felt instant regret the moment he jumped off a bridge. 

SAFE HAVEN

A café-style Safe Haven opened in Parkes last year to provide a safe, welcoming place for people to visit or seek refuge and support if they are experiencing anxiety, emotional distress or thoughts of suicide. The manager of the Safe Haven on Monday extended an open invitation to anyone in the community to visit the space at Suite 3/195-199 Clarinda Street where no appointments or referrals are necessary. On arrival people can access quiet rooms and spaces, sensory equipment like massage chairs to relax, games, puzzles and other engaging activities, order a cup of coffee or tea, and non-clinical staff to talk to. They have the time to sit and spend with you and listen to your story.